When You Want To Quit

Have you ever thought about quitting your business because it seems like you aren’t where you think you should be?

Doing all the things for your business without the results you think you ought to have by now?

If you have, then this Bold Letter is especially for you.

To entertain the idea of quitting is not one that comes on suddenly or on a whim.

The idea of quitting doesn't start when you first encounter emotional overload that pushes against your personal threshold.

It starts when you encounter repeated emotional overload that pushes against your personal threshold without enough relief or resolve to diffuse it.

You assume and expect building a business to be challenging.

But, you didn’t expect it to be this challenging.

You’re taking action, but not seeing any results.

Or, you’re taking action, having results, but not the results you think you should have by now.

Or, you’re taking action, but not enough of it to have the results you want to have.

Or, you’re not taking action because you don’t know what to do.

Or, you know what to do, but you’re not taking action because you can’t seem to get out of your own way to get it done.

Or, you simply don’t want to take action.

Wherever you are, the emotional overload is setting in.

The pressure is starting to feel heavy.

The urge to relieve the pressure is mounting.

But, without enough relief, the idea of quitting seems like the only way of getting any.

Here’s the thing.

Quitting is certainly a way to take off the mounting pressure.

You can always change the circumstance to achieve a result.

Except when you do that, you deflect any responsibility or influence you have over your results onto something that you have zero control over.

In this case, the thing that would provide relief to the idea of quitting are the results you think you should by now have for how long you’ve been doing it and the amount of work you’ve been putting in.

Without realizing it, you have a subconscious expectation on the level of results you think you ought to have right now.

And, because reality doesn’t match what you expected, you’re suffering emotionally.

And, the emotional suffering you’re experiencing is mounting which makes quitting seem like a good idea.

It’s important to note that the message here isn’t about whether you should continue, or not continue, building your business.

It’s about:

• getting clear on what you want and if you’re willing to do to what’s necessary to achieve it

• understanding why you’re not where you think you should be

• evaluating the time you’re putting into your business and how you’re using it

• developing a simple plan to build and collect data from that supports your goals

• executing the plan consistently to find out the exact formula that works for you

• building discomfort tolerance while taking action

• deepening your belief in your ability to do all of this

• learning how to reduce the time you spend sitting in disbelief and inaction

The act of quitting itself isn’t right or wrong.

Quitting is simply a specific action that’s taken that’s linked to achieving a certain result or outcome.

It’s neutral.

A person who quits drinking alcohol…

A person who quits smoking…

A person who quits yelling at their kids…

A person who quits hiding from their feelings…

A person who quits thinking about what others think of them…

A person who quits gossiping…

A person who quits self-abandoning…

…wants to experience life differently than their current life with it.

So, when you question quitting your business, what outcome are you wanting to achieve by doing so? My guess, is it’s tied up with experiencing some level of relief.

You are convinced that quitting would relieve you of the emotional pressure you feel for not having the results you think you should have.

And, while you might experience relief from the emotional pressure by quitting your business, you would instead feel the pressure of regret and disappointment from not pursuing continuing to pursue it.

With this in mind, here are a few things I would offer for you to explore:

1. Get clear on the facts. (And, be honest!)
   Are you connecting with people? How many people are you connecting with? How often are you doing that? What have been the results of those connections? How are you nurturing those connections? Are you sharing what you do? Are you demonstrating your expertise and the information you know through content? How often are you doing that? What has been the results of that? Are you making offers? How many offers do you make? How many of those offers have converted into clients? How long have you been in business? What prior experience and knowledge do you have when it comes to selling? Do you still have things to learn and implement to strengthen your selling skills? Are you doing that?

2. Explore your expectation.
   The reason you’re entertaining the idea of quitting is because there’s a gap between where you are and where you think you should be. For this exercise, focus on where you think you should be. Based on the facts you discovered in #1, is this sufficient enough evidence to support your expectation around where you think you should be? Why or why not?

3. Question your expectation.
   You have an expectation in place. Where did this expectation come from? Who decided that you needed to be at certain place by now? And, what exactly was the creation of that expectation built on? People often find that when they question their expectation that it was created and based from nothing.

4. Revisit the idea of quitting.
   Now that you have more information grounded in facts, you’ve explored your expectations, and poked holes into where your expectations came from in the first place, where does the idea of quitting sit with you now? Does is still feel like the action you want to take? Why or why not? Based on your answer, what do you want to do with all this new information?

If quitting still feels like the right thing for you to do after you’ve gone through and used the above guidance to dig around a bit, then make a decision.

Don’t let yourself stir in indecision.

In this case, let quitting become the opportunity you take to build the skill of making a decision and following through without regret.

If doing that feels too much, then maybe… just maybe, quitting isn’t really what you want to do.

If that’s the case, then I want to offer you to take quitting off the table.

Pursue your business where quitting is not an option.

Allow yourself to see what happens when you have no other choice to but to make it work.

If you want to know exactly what you’ll need to work on, the best hour you’ll spend is with me on a consultation.

Find the support you need.

Get resourceful.

You have what it takes.

Believe it.

I do.

Boldly,

Lynne xo