You Don't Need More Encouragement

When you first learned you could stand in your power and own your voice, you created a dependable environment that reminds you it’s possible AND SAFE to do things differently.

One of the things you did was fill your feed with encouraging quotes and reels that read “everything is going to be okay” “you’re right where you need to be” “you’ve got this” “you’re not alone” to immerse yourself into a new narrative you want to build and deepen your belief in.

You also started following more people who demonstrate and hold the same beliefs.

Encouragement in this stage is foundational and necessary because you haven’t built enough belief yet.

That everything will be okay.

That you are right where you need to be.

That you do have this.

That you’re not alone.

And, it takes an intentionally cultivated space not only for the belief to exist, but to take root and grow until you fully believe in it yourself.

Part of growing belief is making it safe enough to believe it in the first place.

You practice making it safe by telling yourself and others “everything will be okay” “you are right where you need to be” “you do have this” “you’re not alone”.

With enough repetitions, you build muscle memory and proficiency in reassuring and comforting yourself (and others) during those moments in life when things get tough.

You’ve got this down.

Except now, you feel stuck.

You know how to encourage and be encouraging, but why are you still not taking action where you want to?

This happens because encouragement reassurances and comforts.

In the beginning, reassurance and comfort are compelling enough to spur you into action.

But, after a while, reassurance and comfort can’t do for you what full belief can.

Because when you truly believe in something, you don’t need the help of encouragement to believe it.

You just believe it.

Think of it this way.

Imagine you don’t know how to ride a 2-wheel bike yet.

In the beginning, you need the constant support of training wheels to get the feel for riding the bike.

Then, the training wheels come off and you need a different kind of support that’s not constant.

This is usually in the form of someone holding you steady as you attempt to find your balance.

But, the true test of riding the bike is without assistance or external support at all.

Building new beliefs are the same way.

In the beginning, you need the constant encouragement to support the beliefs you’re building.

When you offer encouragement to yourself and others, you practice holding the belief on your own.

It’s when you’re in full belief that encouragement isn’t needed.

• When you fully believe “everything will be okay”, you won’t need someone else to encourage you that it will be.

• When you fully believe “you are right where you need to be”, you won’t need someone else to encourage you that you are.

• When you fully believe “you do have this”, you won’t need someone else to encourage you that you do.

• When you fully believe “you’re not alone”, you won’t need someone else to encourage you that you aren’t.

When you sit in full belief, you’re empowered by default.

This is why you don't need to feel more encouragement, you need to feel more empowerment.

The result-producing actions you want to take aren’t created from reassurance and comfort; they’re created from empowerment.

They’re created from a space of being compelled.

They’re created from a space of ultimate power and authority.

They’re created from a space of your purest and highest identity.

Now, this doesn’t mean you won’t need the help of encouragement anymore because feelings are fleeting and you won’t feel empowered all the time.

Plus, the point isn’t to be empowered all the time.

It’s knowing you can get there when you aren’t.

The other point is that you’ll be able to receive encouragement from others, but you won’t need it from them because you can create it for yourself.

And, as you become more proficient at getting to empowerment (just like you got proficient at encouragement), you’ll need less and less encouragement to get to empowerment.

The way that you can start doing this for yourself now is by stepping into belief in the moments you would normally reassure and comfort yourself.

So, when you:

• decide you want to be more consistent, instead of “I know I can do this” you stand empowered in “this is how I’m doing it”.

• publish your post, instead of “I did my best” you stand empowered in “everything I write is my best”.

• experience a setback in your schedule, instead of “everything is going to be okay” you stand empowered in “everything is always okay because I know how to figure things out”.

• find yourself doubting your journey, instead of “you’re right where you need to be” you stand empowered in “I expected this, nothing’s wrong”.

Another thing you could do is ask yourself… “if I was in full belief:

• how would I handle this?”

• what would I say/not say?”

• what would I do/not do?”

• what things would/wouldn’t happen?”

• what could I assume?”

You can also evaluate how well the belief sits in your body.

How would you describe it?

How would you rate it between 1-10?

Encouragement is not better than empowerment by any means. Nor, is empowerment better than encouragement.

Both of them are emotions that generate a sense of grounding and safety.

There is a place in our human experience where one is better suited over the other.

They each play a vital role in deepening your ability to believe more is not only possible, but also attainable.

The difference between the two is that feeling empowered has the extra component of driving you to take a desired action because it already assumes ownership over the belief in that moment.

Are there areas you need to transition from encouragement to empowerment?

Practice right now.

Practice being in full belief.

Then, watch everything change.

Boldly,

Lynne xo